We all only have a finite amount of time in life. And it stands to reason that we should use that time to our best advantage.
All too often however I coach people who are giving that time away to their own detriment.
I know, as a recovering people pleaser, that I used to do it far too much.
Setting boundaries with others isn’t about being a meanie but rather it’s about having self-respect for your time and energy.
Conversely, there’s nothing wrong to giving your time to causes and people that align with your values and goals.
It’s the other time vampires that we all need to be aware of:
Setting boundaries with other people is a great way to protect the time you have here on earth and to help them grow themselves.
So here are a few questions to help you spot where you need to set boundaries, put them in place, and stick to them.
Spotting Where You Need Better Boundaries
Seeing where you are not getting enough time for your priorities and often helping others to your detriment is the first step in reclaiming your time and energy.
Once you know where you need to set boundaries you need to communicate your boundaries effectively so that everyone knows where they stand.
Sticking To Your Guns
If you don’t know how you want to use your time, then there’s every possibility that someone else will set your priorities for you based on theirs.
Answer these questions for yourself and you should be able to stick to your boundaries more easily.
Of course, these suggestions aren’t exhaustive and often the reasons for lacking the confidence and assertiveness to set boundaries and say no can run deep and need some further work with me as coach.
I hope you see that, by taking these steps and answering these questions for yourself you can begin to take control and optimise your time for you.
Where have you got some time vampires that you need to deal with? Have you been successful in putting in place your own boundaries?
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